Creating Positive Declarations
The past has no power over you.
It’s over.
Now live solely in the present.
Easier said than
done for CSA Survivors, right?
Browsing through
social media, you can see how popular and engaging posts are that encourage, affirm,
and motivate us to look at ourselves & our world differently. Negativity and even depression detour healing
from my own childhood sexual abuse. To
“live solely in the present”, I need to remain focused and positive. Often, I am my own
worst enemy. One way that helps me
remain focused is by creating my own Positive Declaration.
What are Positive Declarations? These are sentences you use to remind
yourself of something positive about yourself or your future. There are 5 categories that I use.
- Work
- Family
- Personal
- Physical
- Spiritual
Healing
from childhood sexual abuse is complicated & takes time. Just when I think I’ve cleared some hurdle in
the process, I’m tripped up. Around
1997, I had a “sit-down” with my parents, my husband and myself. The purpose was to “let the cat out of the
bag”, so to speak, about the sexual contact my father had with me, and its effects. In other words, I told my mother all about
the blow jobs that I was giving him, how & when he would rub my breasts,
and the time(s) he would have intercourse with me. A psychologist that I was seeing discussed
the option of this “sit-down” to help me move on in my recovery.
My Story .. Family of Secrets and the Silence of a Lamb
For years
I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety; even after confronting both my
parents about the sexual abuse. At times,
I feel like I’m on a roller coaster ride that never stops. There are many things that I do to try to
make it through another “low”. I enjoy
graphic design and creating something positive
to share with others. That’s where my
Positive Declarations come in. I
pump-fist my spoken words and declare that I’m a Survivor. Wow!
That feels so good!
These are the steps that you can use to
create your own
Positive Declarations
·
Put a list together of
Positive Quotes
Faith-based Sentences
Words you would tell your “younger
self”
·
Assign each phrase or quote to a category
Work
Family
Personal
Physical
Spiritual
·
When writing the declaration use present tense
I am
I love
I have
I can
I believe
·
Write your positive
declaration
on a 3x5 card
in a
notebook or journal
Create a graphic design (picture
quote)
Use a Pick Me Up Jar
Finally, to change our attitude
about ourselves, we need to say the
declaration out loud. Read it. Write
it. Speak it. REPEAT. This is a process. Change won’t happen overnight.
Remaining positive
in our healing journey can be difficult.
But there are things that we can do to help the process along. I find that seeing a beautiful photo with a
great quote or encouraging faith-based words works for me. That’s why I try to fill my social media
feeds with positive pages & friends.
Not to say that I don’t enter the darkness of negativity and depression. I have my battles too. Bringing beauty & surrounding myself with
positive declarations helps in my healing journey. I believe that positive declarations can help
you too.
To heal from trauma
& abuse, we need to set our sights on the journey before us. Staying focused, speaking words of
encouragement, and affirming positive accomplishments we’ve made on our
journey, will motivate us to look at ourselves & our world differently.
Start putting your
Positive Declarations together TODAY.
Write them down.
Speak them OUT LOUD.
I’ve shared words of encouragement on my Facebook Page.
Now I want to hear from
you. Share your positive declarations by
- Commenting on this post or
- Contact Me privately
The past has no power over you.
It’s over.
Now live solely in the present.
It’s beautiful. Life is beautiful.
And you are beautiful too.
© IAMicried
Visions of Rainbows
5/31/2013
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