Mother's Day 2013

Today we celebrate our Mothers. But for Incest victims this can be a difficult day for us.  As I read more tributes to Mothers, I feel compelled to write about my thoughts/feelings about this day.  Part of me wishes that I had no mother.  There are even times when I hate her.  How can this be?  What kind of person does that make me?  Well, at age 52, I didn’t think I would still be struggling with this issue.  But here I am, again, on another Mother’s Day. 

My mind wanders back to the day I told my mother about the incest abuse by my father (her husband). How can she ignore what I’m telling her?  How can she get up out of the chair and make dinner for him like I never told her anything?  Did she not hear what I just said?  Her silence is killing me.  Dad, sitting there, denies everything. Says I seduced him.  I wanted it.  I enjoyed it. Mom tending to dinner on the stove while my father, my husband and I sit in the living room.  This was not how I expected the “coming out” to go.  That was 16 yrs ago (not sure exact date).  And the memory still fresh like it was yesterday. 

So, on this Mothers Day, I am thinking of all the Mothers who are Survivors of Incest.  Today, I celebrate YOU.  This can be a very difficult day.  I choose to think of my children and grandchildren.  For to me, they are the reason for my Mother’s Day.  NOT MY MOTHER!!!  I choose to look forward, not backward.  I choose to celebrate the love of my FUTURE and not my PAST. 

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers who are Survivors of Incest.  May your day be filled with peace, love and joy.  God Bless!!

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