Pity Party – Don’t Attend The Event
If you have time to whine and
complain about something
then you have the time to do
something about it.
~ Anthony J.
D’Angelo
People say, “Timing is everything.” Plan for this, plan for that. What if things
happen in our lives where the timing
may not be good? Then we whine and
complain. The big “Pity Party” begins.
As for me, an Adult Survivor of Incest & Child Sexual Abuse, I’ve
become very good at these parties. But what is this next chapter for me and why
am I NOT having a “Pity Party”??
I have
struggled with employment and my value/worth for years. As long as I had a job,
my mental health stabilized a bit. When
I became unemployed, I’d take it very personal. I had failed. I wasn’t worth
it. Life wasn’t worth it. And so, the “Pity Party” would begin. But on 12/31/2014 (just days short of 90 days
on the job), as I lay at home sick with severe bronchitis, my employer called
to tell me that I was no longer needed and was terminated. My world came to a crashing halt again. But, there was only a very brief “Pity
Party”. Why?? The timing.
Shortly before
this happened, I was given the name of an attorney who handles disability
cases. Many people have told me over the
years that with my physical and mental conditions, I should consider filing for
benefits. So, after being terminated, I
made the call. Suddenly, my future
didn’t look so grim. Suddenly, I was dreaming about “My Next Chapter” and what
I wanted it to look like. Suddenly the weight
of “my worthlessness” was lifted from my shoulders. I felt free!
I could have
whined & complained “Oh woe is me!” But
I chose to do something about it. My guess is that 2015 will be a difficult and
challenging year for me and my husband.
The timing of this next chapter
may not be the best. But as an Adult
Survivor of Incest, I’ve had very few times
in my life that I could dream.
The next time
you feel a “Pity Party” beginning, don’t
attend the event. Stop,
reflect. There may be a rainbow not far
from sight. The storm has passed. See the rainbow?
It’s beautiful. Life is beautiful.
And you are beautiful too.
© IAMicried
Visions of Rainbows
5/31/2013
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